In a typical week I paddle on Tuesday morning, but this was anything but a typical week. My mother's funeral took place on Tuesday morning, and the morning after that we had the "committal" (interment) ceremony out at the cemetery. I finally got back in the boat Thursday, and I paddled again yesterday and today. The sessions were unremarkable--just some steady paddling, a mental health break from all the goings-on. I also did some bike riding Monday and Friday (when I got another flat tire😠).
Navigating the business of laying my mother to rest, I thought a lot about the extent to which our parents shape the people that we are. There's no question that my mother and father had a profound influence on the person I have become: how I think, how I talk, how I interact with others, my moral compass... everything.
But seeing as how this is a canoe & kayak blog, I'll focus on my identity as a paddler. How did the people my parents were lead me into a life of paddling boats?
There are famous examples of great canoe & kayak athletes begetting great canoe & kayak athletes. British whitewater slalom kayaker Richard Fox, whose competitive career spanned the 1970s, 80s, and 90s, was regarded as one of the greatest the sport had ever seen as he piled up five world championships along with many other medals in international competition. He married French paddler Myriam Jerusalmi, herself a world champion and top-ranked international competitor. The couple moved to Australia to accept coaching positions, and one of their daughters, Jessica, has become perhaps the greatest whitewater slalom athlete of all time.
In the world of ocean kayak racing, South African Sam Mocke is one of the most promising young paddlers, and he too is the progeny of internationally successful canoe & kayak athletes: father Dawid Mocke was one of the world's top ocean surfski racers a couple of decades ago, while mother Nikki Mocke was a flatwater sprint kayaker on South Africa's 2008 Olympic team. Both remain actively involved in paddling or paddling-adjacent activities, Dawid the operator of the Surfski School and Downwind Camps (like the one I attended this past January) and Nikki an organizing force in the local surf lifesaving club.
I'm pretty sure I there's nothing coincidental about Jessica and Sam's success and who their parents are. They both "grew up in the boat" under the constant supervision of the world's leading experts. And they're not the only ones: in paddlesports, and for that matter in all other sports, if your parents were elite-level performers, there's an awfully good chance you'll be one, too, if you choose to follow in their footsteps.
Some of the other top athletes I know have family stories that are a little more subtle. Siblings Davey and Cathy Hearn were both world champions and Olympians in whitewater slalom, and their brother Bill was quite good as well. Their parents, Carter and Mary Alice Hearn, did not have notable competitive careers on the world stage. But they paddled recreationally with the DC-based Canoe Cruisers Association, and Carter did some club-level slalom racing at a time when the sport was barely known in the United States. The family made trips out West nearly every summer because Carter, a geologist, had fieldwork assignments there. And so the Hearn children grew up around paddling as well as camping and other outdoor activities. The idea of racing didn't really come into focus until DC-area native Jamie McEwan, whom they knew through their parents' C.C.A. membership, won the C1 bronze medal at the 1972 Olympics at Augsburg, West Germany. For the next few years Carter and Mary Alice gave their kids all the support they could as they pursued their own slalom excellence. For example, they enrolled them in a C.C.A. youth racing program overseen by Jamie's mother May McEwan, and sent them to the Madawaska Kanu Centre in Ontario to be coached by some of the world's top paddlers of that era.
Greg Barton, winner of world and Olympic titles as a flatwater kayaker, is another elite athlete whom I've come to know well, and his family background is not so different from the Hearns'. Greg was born into a farming family in rural Michigan, and paddling was a big part of how the family had fun. In the summertime they would head north to places like the Boundary Waters Canoe Area for a few days of paddling and camping and fishing, and Greg's parents, Mike and Kathy, were involved in North American style marathon canoe racing. Through this racing activity the family met Marcia Smoke of Buchanan, Michigan, who had won a bronze medal in flatwater kayaking at the 1964 Olympics, and she was a major source of knowledge and inspiration not just for Greg, but also for his brother Bruce, who made the 1976 and 1980 U.S. Olympic teams, and his sister Connie, who raced in the junior world championships.
And so the Hearns and Greg Barton are examples of top paddlers whose parents were not champions themselves, but did lots and lots of "for fun" paddling and had contact with accomplished racers who went on to serve as mentors and role models for the kids.
And now we circle back around to little old me. My parents were Sara and Elmore. What were they like? Well, I wouldn't describe them as sedentary, but they weren't really athletic, either. (My dad did run some track in school, but by the time I was born he'd settled into life behind a desk as a very busy lawyer.) They appreciated the value of the outdoors, but they were not "rugged outdoorsmen." On family outings they liked to get out and walk, but stuck to fairly easy day hikes in gardens and nature centers and similar "developed" areas. For accommodations, we stayed in motels; we never, ever camped.
They did like to swim and be around the water, though, and we took a few beach vacations on the Gulf coast. And their best friends had a cabin on a quiet section of the Spring River at Hardy, Arkansas, and that's where I got my first taste of canoeing.
The best thing my parents ever did, as far as my evolution into a paddler goes, was send me to summer camp in western North Carolina. I spent the first several summers doing some hiking and camping and horseback riding and generally growing to love the outdoors. Then in my fourth summer, at age 13, I'd become physically mature enough to handle the big open canoes that were the staple of summer camp fleets back then, and that's when I really started to see what paddling was all about. The canoeing staff taught us the strokes and the skills and techniques for running a whitewater river, and from that point on there was no way I'd rather spend a day than out on a playful mountain stream. When I got home from camp at the end of the summer my mother could see how excited I was about it all, and promptly enrolled me in an "intro to kayaking" continuing ed course over at Memphis State University. The sessions were all in a swimming pool and mostly involved learning to roll (which I struggled to do), but it was as good as anything we had here in our whitewater-poor part of the country.
I spent another decade going to camp each summer, and that was my chance to develop as a paddler. The camp's program was not racing-focused, however, so it wasn't until the early 1990s that I ventured into the sport's competitive realm. I quickly realized I still had much to learn, and I set about the business of doing so while posting often-humbling results in whitewater slalom races.
There were definitely moments when I wanted to wail in anguish, "Oh... OH........ if only my parents were paddlers too, if I'd gotten started at a younger age, or if I'd gotten to grow up someplace where I could have paddled more often... then I might actually be good at this!"
Now, just a few days before my 59th birthday, I'm pretty much over such feelings. If my parents taught me anything, it's that no activity I participate in should be about me. Sure, I should try to do it as well as I possibly can, but I should always look for ways to make the activity better for all the other participants, too. And the better I am at it, the greater that responsibility is. (That's a big part of why I started up this blog--I hope that in some small way, somebody will benefit from the thoughts I share here.)
Meanwhile, my parents did everything I could ever have asked of the people they were. They could have done more if they were expert paddlers, or if they'd known people who were expert paddlers; but they weren't and they didn't. And that's okay. What's important is that they cared, and they supported me in every way they could even though I was having to find my own way most of the time.
And even though I never got as good as the people I talk about above, you know... I'm good enough. Good enough to go out and paddle my boat for a lifetime of enjoyment and physical fitness. I'll still try to finish as high as I can whenever I line up to race with a few dozen other people, but the greatest privilege is simply being one of that few dozen. As the narrator of the classic film Fast and Clean puts it, "The road to the top is started by many and finished by few."
The day will ultimately come when I join my mom and dad in death, and all I can hope for is that I'll be remembered for the same reasons they are: that I tried to make the world around me better, not worse, and that I lived life the best way I knew how.
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